Submitting to a dominant has been a simultaneously comforting and erotic experience for me, as it is for many people. One dom taught me that I should never let someone tie me up who doesnt own a giant pair of safety shears imagine getting a cramp when youre all trussed up! Not all dominants want a bratty sub, but some people like. If youre a submissive who hates cunnilingus or fellatio, well then you wont work well with a dominant who loves them and vice versa. My bdsm partners give me a safe place to try these a place where Ive consented to the experience and therefore its not actually rape (a crucial difference). As I wrote about earlier, one of the biggest problems.